But you can grow around the loss. You can build a band. You can write songs. You can love your friends so fiercely that they never know the loneliness you carry.
This highlights a profound melancholy. She is erasing her own identity as a daughter to become a surrogate partner, not out of desire, but out of a fear of loneliness. Seta Ichika - I Don-t Have A Mother Anymore- So...
So I pour my own tea, and I don’t say “thank you” to anyone across the table. I pour it too full, sometimes. Spill a little. She used to wipe the ring of wetness away before I could even reach for a napkin. I never noticed that until now. But you can grow around the loss
The loss of a parent creates an inherent insecurity: If the person who was supposed to love me unconditionally can vanish, can anyone else be relied upon? This drives her attachment style. She clings. She over-gives. She uses her body and her service as a way to anchor people to her. You can love your friends so fiercely that